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Tuesday, 15 April 2008
Deep Spirited Friendships
I’ll never forget one thing my good friend said to me. I think it’ll be a saying that’ll go into the history books. She said something like...“Friends are a privilege to each other and you should be privileged to have me as a friend.”
You see, she’s the type that chooses friends. She doesn’t simply make friends with whoever comes her way and I think somewhere in there is a very wise owl indeed. If you think about it, there are probably people in our lives who have screwed us around and done things to us to make us feel miserable and horrible about ourselves. Those relationships aren’t worth the time and effort. So why waste time on those relationships when you could be spending it harvesting another relationship that is worth keeping – an eternal friendship.
Wise people don’t try to microwave friendships and relationships. They don’t try to squeeze the lives of people that matter to them into the cracks. They’re constantly making an effort to meet up with the people that matter to them and putting them first above all else. Why? Because there is something in the relationship that’s worth investing the time into. Why would we spend our time on people that don’t make us happy, that don’t encourage us, that don’t support the things we do, that don’t cherish the things we do, that don’t believe in us. Lately, I’ve realised that people on the outside aren’t always what they are on the inside. It sickens me to the bone when I think about how some people can be so cruel and so unthoughtful.
You know, I think saying I miss you is like saying I love you. I don’t simply like to say I miss you to anyone because actually I don’t tend to miss people easily. Unless I really have missed you, then I’ll say it – but it’s something that I heard that gets thrown around a lot. It’s just like saying I love you... you should only say it when you mean it and not out of compulsion. So don’t feel bad if I’ve never said I missed you to you – because, well I don’t tend to miss people easily. =) And if I love you... well you’ll know it too because I would have said it to you if I had the chance already.
A Harvard research showed that when one person joins a group – it cuts their risk of dying in half! Imagine that! They also found that people who do exercise with weak relationships die earlier than people who don’t exercise but have good relationships. (Sorry I don’t have any referencing – but it was all from Ps Mark Pomery’s sermon) So anyway, it just goes to show the importance of relationships in our lives.
You know, we should set a higher standard for ourselves and not simply keep friends with the next Joe Bloggs that comes our way. Making friends and keeping friends is a whole different thing. We should evaluate and see whether the friendship is worth keeping in the first place, after all, not everyone has good intentions. Most of all, we should have the confidence to say to anyone “it’s a privilege for you to be my friend.” I think we should always carry that kind of mentality around – I don’t think it’s boastful or being better than anyone else, but if you have that kind of mentality then no one can break you. You’ll then have the confidence to meet many people and see which relationships are worth investing in for the long term and which relationships you can reach out to.
Friends come and go... but at the end of it all, the ones that are still standing beside you and supporting you all the way are the relationships that you in turn should feel privileged to have.
Don't worry if you didn't make it into the photos for this post - it just means that you're not special enough to me... and well if you made a double or triple appearance in this post - then feel EXTRA special!!!
JUST KIDDING!
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@7:32 pm
bye bye~