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Tuesday, 17 June 2008
In Hot Pursuit of Mr Right
In hot pursuit of Mr Right. Does he exist? Is he somewhere out there? Will I ever find him? That is the million dollar question.
And the million dollar answer? Of course he exists! Of course he's out there! And of course I'll find him!
But here is the second million dollar question... how OLD will I be when I find him?! *gasps* that question scares me. How freaking old am I going to be when Mr Right comes galloping into my life? It's not like women can wait forever for Mr Right to come along. Our bodies are a ticking time bomb... once we hit 30, we're no longer considered youthful and "potential material," once we're over 40 it becomes dangerous to pro-create and once we're over 50... well... menopause has probably already kicked in by that time - and what kind of man wants a woman that has mood swings everyday?
These days, emphasis put on finding Mr Right is like finding the perfect job. We all have goals, aims, ambitions and desires to succeed in the type of work we do and the amount of money and personal achievements we make, and it is these little goals that help keep us busy in the pursuit of finding the perfect job. However, the pursuit in finding Mr Right might not seem too distant from finding the perfect job. I'm sure we all have an extensive "tick list" or a resume of specifics that the person in question must submit before getting his foot through the door of the "potentials" interview... which would in this case be the "potentials" date.
I'm also sure that on this "tick list" we ladies have some definites on the list which are non-negotiable. But the fact is, Mr Right also has a "tick list" for us ladies. Though I'm sure that his "tick list" would be considerably shorter I hope! I would imagine that Mr Right would have things such as someone young, someone well educated and someone good looking and in good shape, nice smile, long legs, big boobs etc etc. Typical men right! But if we think about it, don't women seek the same in men too? Don't we want macho men, don't we want TALL men, don't we want well-built men, don't we want well educated men. I guess we're all looking for the Barbie and Ken's of this world that we may never find if we're not willing to compromise.Compromise. Now that's a word. Why should I compromise? I set my standards and by no means am I going to settle for anything less than I deserve. And you're right. Sometimes accepting second best may work for a while, but no matter how good things turn out, you may always be dissatisfied believing you could have done better.
The fact is that since the 70's and 80's we've become much more sophisticated as humans, individuals, lovers and mates. (My parents got engaged within two weeks of dating each other!) It's not difficult to attain a degree, a double degree or even a masters degree. It's not difficult to attain a good job and a good salary. Therefore, why should we ask of any less from our partners or partners to be.
When we are looking for a life partner, what exactly are we looking for? Someone to support us for the rest of our lives? a breeding partner? someone to make us laugh? love? Should there in fact be a reason to love someone at all? I read somewhere that loving without reason just might be... well... true love. Think about that for a moment.
If you marry someone because they're tall, handsome, well built and atheletic - what happens when you're 60? Are you still going to love him for this reason? His physical attributes would have certainly withered away. Should we in fact choose someone for the physical attributes they possess now, which are eventually going to wither away? By that time, we can only love their character rather than their physical attitributes.
I believe God has already chosen the One intended for us. He never intended us to be lonely souls for the rest of our lives, but finds joy in seeing us happy. Maybe we have already have crossed paths with our "future partners to-be" and just at the perfect timing of his will and His plan, we will meet and so begins the journey. Maybe we haven't met our "future partners to-be" yet - but in all of God's perfection, he is grooming both of you for the perfect time you will meet. We just need to put our complete faith and trust in Him that He will see us through - that in the end, the One He has chosen for us is Mr Right.
I just pray to God that I'm not an old wrinkly soul by the time I meet Mr Right!
So in all that we do, "Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer," Romans 12:12. Know that you're destined for somone great and that you will live a happily ever after story!
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@8:17 pm
bye bye~