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Sunday, 8 June 2008
Welcome to the Bachelor's Pad
How does a bachelor’s pad look like? What does it smell like? Women are sometimes puzzled as to how men survive in their little bachelor’s pad... how do 4 or 5 or even 6 men living in one house hold not be able to pick up and clean after themselves amazes me. Why on earth do they have so much JUNK around the house? Do they clean?!
Wikipedia says Some bachelor pads are stereotyped as being messy, with old food and dirty dishes and clothing being strewn about the floor, sinks, and other areas in proximity to places where they are useful (examples being dirty clothes piled up near a washer and/or dryer, dirty dishes in a sink, or moldy food in a refrigerator) — often to the disgust of women related to or involved with the men living in "pads." Several men may share a pad and its expenses for financial reasons or friendship, which generally stereotypically results in worsened living conditions compared to one person's tenantship. Pads may also be the sites of wild parties.
Recently, I’ve been going to a certain bachelor’s pad and well... every time I go there, I have this compulsion (in my head) to CLEAN!!! I see rubbish all over the table, I see dirty plates and cups in the sink and table, I see the fridge in desperate need of a clean out, I see HAIR on the bathroom floor...the bathroom floor wet! (which I absolutely cannot stand!), I see water on the sink table in the bathroom and kitchen and kitchen floor, I see the floors in dire need of a vacuum and mop, I see a mountain of “stuff” on the couch... and in seeing all this my brain wants to explode and take charge over things and clean the poor house.
You know, I’ve never ever lived with anyone aside from my family. Sure I’ve gone on camps and road trips where I’ve had to spend a maximum of 3 days living with friends...but other than that, I’ve basically lived at home – where my mum does a lot of the cooking and cleaning. For that, I’m really thankful and I see the effort my mum puts into cleaning the house. I remember our road trip back in November of 2006, we rented a house out in Yallingup and 4 guys and 6 girls went – we all lived under one roof. We’d all cooked lunch together and ate dinner together and the feeling was just really homey and plus it was such an effort to buy food to feed 10 people... and for 4 guys who eat A LOT! Each person had their responsibility, whether it was cleaning the kitchen, setting up the table, washing the dishes, cooking the food or preparing the food but we all played our part. I think that’s what all households should be like. More fun when everyone contributes their share of the workload right?
I know that if I ever move out of home, I won’t be able to simply live with any Joe Bloggs off the street. I would pick who I think I could live with. Right now in my head, I have some people in my head that I know that I could live with. They’re clean, quiet, particular and responsible for the mess they would make. Just thinking about living with certain people would make me insane in the head. I don’t like people constantly talking... garh... people talking and talking and talking to me would drive me insane.
Is it my inability to adapt to certain people? Well, I don’t think so. Maybe it's my inability to let go of the standard and the state I think we should let ourselves live in - but I don't think I'd let go of that. I think it’d be a wise thing to choose your housemates because if you simply move in with anyone and everyone goes about doing their own thing, there’s no cohesion within your household. Everyone has their own section of the pantry, everyone has their own section of the fridge, and everyone cooks their own food separately - where the family love in that? If I were to move in with friends, I’d definitely make an effort to cook for my housemates so that we can all have lunch or dinner together – and of course CLEAN TOGETHER! And definitely for a house of girls, I think it’s important that you dedicate a time during the day be it half and hour or an hour just to fellowship with your girls – I think that’s important and strengths your bond with each other instead of just coming home from uni or work and going straight to your room and going on the internet or minding your own business.
I mean, sometimes, people move in with friends and they think they can live together but in the end they drive each other insane and their friendship breaks. That’s why I also think it’s important to choose the people you live with. Maybe some people are just “whatever” kind of people, they don’t really care about anything and they can just let things be. But I think each person living in a household should have responsibilities of keeping their space clean as well as the communal space. They should also have enough respect for each other – respecting each other’s space and privacy.
I would like to move out of home (eventually) but I can’t do that right now because of financial constraints and a whole lot of other things that I have "planned" and besides, it's just so much more convenient having my mum around. I'm so grateful to have her as my mum. So until then, maybe I can only dream of living in my own home... with housemates =) near the city or the beach with a nice view so I can exercise and take photographs everyday!
today...
@4:01 pm
bye bye~